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How to Start Dressing Goth And Not Scare Your Mother

How to Start Dressing Goth And Not Scare Your Mother

Goth fashion is a unique, edgy style that can make you stand out in a crowd. But it can also be intimidating to those unfamiliar with the look. If you want to dress goth but don't want to scare your mother, there are ways to express yourself while still respecting her wishes. In this article, we'll provide tips on how to dress goth and not scare your mother. From choosing the right gothic pieces to styling your look with confidence, you'll be able to show off your unique style while still maintaining a respectful relationship with your mom.

Change is inevitable, and everybody knows that; but how you make the change could be the difference between making or breaking whatever you are trying. If you remain open about your clothing choices and transition into the style gradually, your parents are less likely to be caught off guard or have a reason for concern. If they do become concerned, which they might, explain why you have chosen this particular style, but do so rationally.

Yelling will not help your situation. Try to relate your decision to your parent's youth. Did they ever try alternative fashion choices when they were young? Did they ever explore different lifestyles? Your mother will most likely become concerned at your drastic wardrobe change and begin questioning you, possibly flipping out on you! Instead, start at a slow pace. If you dress quite conservatively but are interested in trying an alternative style, ease into the dark clothing and makeup gradually. Some ways you can gradually make the decision and change into goth clothing




1. Black is the new Black. Black is the color

Begin by wearing black t-shirts, or black pants. Remember, being goth isn’t all about wearing black and being extreme. Wearing pops of color such as navy, purple, and red fit perfectly fine into the goth style and can keep your parents from freaking out. Try a long-sleeved red shirt beneath a black fishnet and a nice pair of black suspenders or leggings with a black sweatshirt. This style says you are trying something new without going overboard.



2. Accessorize like a Goth!

Begin to add light layers of goth accessories such as Victorian drape chokers, hats, skull bags, and watches. If you want to ease out of wearing color, try wearing black tights or leggings with a pair of black boots and gauge your parents’ reaction. If they don't say anything, then you are free to move forward. Try some skull bags or studded creepers and see how it goes.




3. Makeup is King

Keep your make-up to the basics. Lipstick and eyeliner. Begin adding dark eyeshadow, eyeliner, lipstick, and black mascara. Make-up is all about focusing on one feature at a time such as your eyes or lips. When applying eyeliner start with a thin eye on your upper lid then add a dark colored eyeshadow to the corner of your eyelids to create a smoky look.  Add more eye make up to fit your desired look, but remember you have to make it out of the house without setting off any alarms. To avoid alerting your parents it might be best to try just a light layer first. Instead, pin back your hair with snake bone hairpins that match the color of your hair or try a styling your hair with a lace vampire. 



4. Establish your Goth Identity

You are now free to explore different avenues of gothic fashion. There are many different subcultures of goth including glam, vamp, romantic, and high-fashion. Don’t let anyone peg you to one category. Choose one that fits your style preferences best, and one you won’t likely have to hide from your mother.

Dressing in an alternative style will, however, cause people to treat you differently. It’s important to remain true to yourself no matter what. You have the freedom to dress as you want, and so do they. Judging on your part is not warranted either. 


Note: Explore fashion as much as you like, but it might be best avoid any major body piercings or tattoos until after you’re 18. 

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Riley Davis

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